"ungrateful"...

Well, I have experienced something I never thought I would see....What happened, you ask? My mother and my father got into an argument. No, I couldn't believe it either... They have been divorced for 38 years. She was ex-wife #1. I am an only child. But they had a major blowout. Dad reminded me of a two-year-old. My mother was "right".

Here is what occurred on Thursday 11-20-08. Mom has been driving Dad to his appointments and to run errands. He does not like being carted around. He has been critical of her driving. He tells her she is slow or she doesn't pay attention to where she is going. As he got out of the car on Thursday, she said he was ungrateful.

We got an email in ALL CAPITAL LETTERS. For those of you who do not know what that means, IT MEANS HE WAS SHOUTING AT US. I say "us" because he sent the email to me as well. He closed off his vitual calendar. He said things were back to normal and that he did not need anyone to go anywhere with him. He would be just fine.

What did I do??? I told my mother not to do anything and not to react to the email. He wanted attention and if he got it there would be no living with him. It reminded me of a temper tantrum a child would throw. As of today, my mother left town on saturday. She and the girls will be gone until Saturday or Sunday after Thanksgiving.

Phillip is still not speaking to my dad. He won't answer the phone or go see him at all. Of course, my dad did say some ugly things to Phillip at the party. No, I don't know why.

The standard answer for every bad behavior seems to be "he has brain tumors" or "he has cancer that is why he is acting ugly".